Adoptees Connect – Lexington, KY launched our first meeting on Saturday January 13th, 2018. We met at Wild Fig Coffee & Books from 5:00P-7:00P. It’s a cute little house remodeled into a coffee shop here in Lexington, KY off of Limestone Street. I was a little nervous of how the coffee shop vibe would go because at times they can be chaotic, depending on how busy they were. I thought this would be a good “Meet & Greet” spot to break the ice. Depending on how it went would depend on if we used it again but I also want us to try other places as well.
I think visiting different places would be fun. I’ve also discussed with the group, meeting in parks when it warms up, going hiking together, etc. We’re so excited for whats to come!
I had no idea how our meeting would go, but I had great anticipation to finally get to see my fellow adoptees, TOGETHER in real life. Arriving to the coffee shop there were a few people scattered around but as we met and settled it seemed those people dispersed and we ended up being by ourselves. How amazing is that?! We sat at a table with 4 chairs, and as each adoptee arrived I was excited to see their faces, hug them and introduce them to one another. We each got a coffee, and settled in.
We sighed in on the sign-in sheet, filled out name tags and started promptly at 5:00P. I introduced myself, although they all knew me, smile. We read announcements, group guidelines, and began our open share time. Each person took some time to share a little about their journey. Aside from a conference I went to last April, this was the first time I sat in a circle of others who understand me and I understand them.
We speak the same language.
It was amazing to experience and I think we can all agree on us being able to feel what one another was feeling as we shared. The pain, the sorrow and even the joyful parts. To be in a “safe space” and be able to share our hearts regarding our adoptee journeys is something that is long over due for us all. I felt a closeness with other human beings in MY REAL LIFE like I never have before.
All in all, our group had a flow that was organic, natural and a peaceful vibe lingered over our group. Sharing came naturally it seems.
2 hours seemed like 30 minutes and I’m certain we could have gone on forever, but we thanked the coffee shop owners, cleaned our belongings up and said our “Good-byes” until next time.
A few of us decided to head over to Applebee’s on Leestown Road and the conversations just continued. on. I remember mentioning something regarding adoption regarding my journey that I was angry about. My fellow adoptees just listened, and agreed that they would be angry too. It’s nice to be around a group of others who understand me and I understand them. It’s nice to be able to share things I’ve kept inside for far too long.
I always feel this magnetic connection when meeting my fellow adoptees in real life, and I’m always honored and excited to learn about them, hear their stories and JUST LISTEN.
Isn’t that what most of us need?
Is for other’s to JUST LISTEN & LEARN
All in all I feel our first Adoptees Connect group went amazing and I can’t wait until next time. Within 24 hours of our first meeting I received inquires from 2 more adoptees who want to attend our next meeting. Exciting times ahead!
Friday, January 26th 2018 – Southland Bowling Alley 7:00P-10:00P – Family & Friends welcome to join you so we can meet one another.
Saturday, February 10th, 2018 – Meeting at Common Grounds on High Street in Lexington, KY 5:00P-7:00P We will go somewhere to eat following the group. (location TBA)
We’re meeting the 2nd Saturday of every Month. Location will always be announced on an invite on Facebook. We will visit different venues until our group finds a suitable spot where we feel comfortable. Then we will more than likely stay at that venue until it warms up. At that time we can visit outside venues, parks, etc.
I think that’s it for now.
I hope to see you all Friday at Southland Bowling Alley.
Love & Shalom,